Whether its you or him who initiates the split, breaking up is hard to do. Often you really don’t want to hurt his feelings (but sometimes you really do!) but you have to move on. If you’re on the receiving end of the “I just can’t do this anymore…” it sucks. Here are six things that might make the landing slightly easier, courtesy of Cosmopolitan Magazine:
- if you’re the one getting the boot, trash talking him not only feels good, its good for you! Researchers from the University of Utah found that dissing him to your girlfriends actually makes you less likely to feel depressed after a break-up and more likely to have turned the corner one month on.
-meanwhile in Arizona…at the University there, researchers say you can still be friends, sort of… If you’re pining for him, going cold turkey can make you feel worse. But you can’t hang around constantly like a bad odour. There’s a middle ground unique to every relationship if you want to maintain a friendship. The two of you have to find it – whether it’s a weekly dinner or a “Happy Birthday!” on his Facebook page.
-do you dish to your new partner about your ex? Probably not a good idea on your first date but, according to a study in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, being up front about past problems with intimate partners can make you feel closer to your new one. Again, moderation is key – keep it classy San Diego.
-whenever I’ve hit a rough patch with a partner it sure feels good to scan back on happier times with him and other ex’s. But according to a recent Canadian study – that’s not healthy and increases the chance of a breakup. The key is to focus on what’s good in your current relationship and devise ways to increase the frequency of enjoying those things.
-you’re right – he is checking out your Facebook profile all the time – about once a week – just like you’re doing to him! So make sure to stack it with fabulous things to indicate how popular and hot you are because 85% of your ex’s will look you up on Facebook and 20% go back every week.
-the old adage is true: guys never know what they have until its gone. But by then, its too late. Another study has revealed that a majority of single guys questioned wished they were still with an old flame, compared to only a quarter of single women. Yeah? Well if you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it!!